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As women, when we’re children we’re taught to enter the world with big hearts. Blooming hearts. Hearts bigger than our damn fists. We are taught to forgive - constantly - as opposed to what young boys are taught: Revenge, to get ‘even.’ Our empathy is constantly made appeals to, often demanded for. If we refuse to show kindness, we are reprimanded. We are not good women if we do not crush our bones to make more space for the world, if we do not spread our entire skin over rocks for others to tread on, if we do not kill ourselves in every meaning of the word in the process of making it cozy for everyone else. It is the heat generated by the burning of our bodies with which the world keeps warm. We are taught to sacrifice so much for so little. This is the general principle all over the world.

By the time we are young women, we are tired. Most of us are drained. Some of us enter a lock of silence because of that lethargy. Some of us lash out. When I think of that big, blooming heart we once had, it looks shriveled and worn out now. When I was teaching, I had a young student named Mariam. She was only 11 years old. Some boy pushed her around in class, called her names, broke her spirit for the day. We were sitting under a chestnut tree on a field trip and she asked me if a boy ever hurt me. I told her many did and I destroyed them one by one. I think that’s the first time she ever heard the word ‘destroyed.’ We rarely teach our girls to fight back for the right reasons.

Take up more space as a woman. Take up more time. Take your time. You are taught to hide, censor, move about without messing up decorum for a man’s comfort. Whether it’s said or not, you’re taught balance. Forget that. Displease. Disappoint. Destroy. Be loud, be righteous, be messy. Mess up and it’s fine – you are learning to unlearn. Do not see yourself like glass. Like you could get dirty and clean. You are flesh. You are not constant. You change. Society teaches women to maintain balance and that robs us of our volatility. Our mercurial hearts. Calm and chaos. Love only when needed; preserve otherwise.

Do not be a moth near the light; be the light itself. Do not let a man’s ocean-big ego swallow you up. Know what you want. Ask yourself first. Decide your own pace. Decide your own path. Be cruel when needed. Be gentle only when needed. Collapse and then re-construct. When someone says you are being obscene, say yes I am. When they say you are being wrong, say yes I am. When they say you are being selfish, say yes I am. Why shouldn’t I be? How do you expect a woman to stand on her two feet if you keep striking her at the ankles.

There are multiple lessons we must teach our young girls so that they render themselves their own pillars instead of keeping male approval as the focal point of their lives. It is so important to state your feelings of inconvenience as a woman. We are instructed to tailor ourselves and our discomfort - constantly told that we are ‘whining’ and ‘nagging’ and ‘complaining too much.’ That kind of silence is horribly violent, that kind of insistence upon uniformly nodding in agreement to your own despair, and smiling emptily so no man is ever uncomfortable around us. Male-entitlement dictates a woman’s silence. If we could see the mimetic model of the erasure of a woman’s voice, it would be an incredibly bloody sight.

On a breezy July night, my mother and I were sleeping under the open sky. Before dozing off, I told her that I think there is a special place in heaven where all wounded women bury their broken hearts and their hearts grow into trees that only give fruit to the good and poison to the bad. She smiled and said Ameen. Then she closed her eyes.

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Mehreen Kasana, A Woman of War
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If God Is Watching

karnythia:

I wrote a short story. Fictionalized history. Check it out maybe?

It amuses me the number of grown adults who are my age who get puffed up and angry that I write about feminism in video games, specifically Warcraft and proceed to talk shit about me publicly on twitter, all the while saying that I’m subtweety

Resources for Male Survivors

redqueenxlt:

letstalkaboutrape:

I posted last week asking people if they knew of some good resources for male victims of sexual assault. Here is the list people came up with:

www.malesurvivor.org

www.violenceunsilenced.com

www.rainn.org

www.pandys.org

www.1in6.org

www.soulspeakout.org

http://finallyfeminism101.wordpress.com/

Thanks everyone!

reblog for signal boost

letstalkaboutrape

the call is coming from

inside the horse

anagrammaton:

'BOYS ARE NOT DISPOSABLE' haha yeah what a radical notion 'value men' wow haha fuck never thought of it that way before hahaha wow revelatory

anagrammaton
emilianadarling:

bailarina-raven:

“I don’t want people to like her anymore, almost, that sounds really, really bad.I want people to realize that actually she’s not the same anymore. You can’t root for her forever, because she’s not there to be your favorite character. That’s not what she’s there for. She’s real. People go down bad paths and they make bad decisions, but it’s always justified in their head. I want the audience to differentiate that and not just be like, ‘Oh, it’s Arya, we love her.’ Because actually look at what Arya’s doing. She’s being eaten away from the inside out, and she’s not stopping it.” - about Arya

#A GAME OF CHILD ACTORS WHO REALLY KNOW THEIR FUCKING CHARACTERS
bailarina-raven
lornacrowleys:

generalnazgrim:

honestlywhat were they thinking with this?

look ‘raiding’ and ‘raving’ sound kind of similar and well

that’s not armor that’s literally visual vomit
generalnazgrim

queenqueso:

Awww

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what a cute new Heartstone wallpap—

wait

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bigbardafree
farfarawaysite.com
jauffre

lornacrowleys:

college application asks me to describe myself in a few words and im like “dark/mature/no ERP”

lornacrowleys

cassidycaravans:

to the lesbians who discourage women from exploring their sexuality and avoid bi-curious ladies AND bisexual/pansexual women at all costs you’re exactly who i don’t want to associate with in the queer community you’re not doing other lesbians a favor your’re actually setting my progress in educating people of sexuality’s fluidity back 12 million steps

show bi-curious women what being with another woman is like???? don’t fucking push them away and act like you’re fucking above them???? goddamn i’m so sick of seeing this gross shit everywhere

cassidycaravans
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